Sportsgirl top & necklace, Scanlan & Theodore vest, Witchery pants & satchel, TW Steel watch, shoes by LV
Wearing a vest over a long-sleeved top in Borneo is a huge mistake. HUGE. Bordering on suicidal, even. I mean, WHAT WAS I THINKING?! (Obviously, I wasn’t. Thinking, that is.)
There’s a popular saying in the Hokkien dialect: “Ai sui, mai mia“, which roughly translates to “Want to look pretty, don’t want your life” (uhh, I already said I was roughly translating it – there really is no grammatically correct way to put this without butchering the original intent of this saying).
I mean, the things we women will do to look good: wearing feet-eating shoes, applying a mask of makeup, spending entire days in a salon chair, getting our nails done… you get the idea. The list is basically endless.
Then, after forking out the equivalent of a small country’s annual GDP in a conscious attempt to maintain/upgrade our appearance, we’re often judged as shallow, vain, or just plain stupid.
Man, I swear this is all true. I mean, a girl can’t even wear bright nailpolish without being on the receiving end of crazy disapproving looks from some random old man sitting at the coffeeshop two tables away!!!
YEA OLD MAN, I’M TALKING TO YOU!! WA-SSUP??
… But anyway, where was I?
There’s a general misconception that women who care about their appearance simply aren’t as intelligent or capable as an attractive male/a female who doesn’t spend as much time on their appearance. Because of this, attractive women often lose out on job opportunities and projects (TOTALLY UNFAIR).
On the flip side, a woman who doesn’t tend to doll up usually gets labelled intelligent, but less attractive (ALSO UNFAIR), although they are more likely to get hired in a job interview. But once they’re in, they stand to earn less up to 15% LESS than an attractive woman!
But in the end, it really doesn’t matter whether or not you like to spend those extra five minutes in the morning making sure your eyeliner isn’t crooked – women in general still face plenty of discrimination both in public and in the workplace (see also: here). We’re still being significantly underpaid in comparison to our male counterparts, irrespective of qualification.
SO SERIOUSLY, WHAT DO ALL YOU MALES WANT US TO DO?!?!
Dressed down, dressed up, makeup, no makeup, NICE OUTFIT, BAD OUTFIT? CHOOSE!! CHOOSE NOW, AND MAKE YOUR PEACE WITH IT!
I found a pretty good quote by Greta Christine, highlighting the condition of the female gender and our inherent fixation with fashion and beauty:
Fashion is one of the very few forms of expression in which women have more freedom than men. And I don’t think it’s an accident that it’s typically seen as shallow, trivial, and vain. It is the height of irony that women are valued for our looks, encouraged to make ourselves beautiful and ornamental… and are then derided as shallow and vain for doing so. And it’s a subtle but definite form of sexism to take one of the few forms of expression where women have more freedom, and treat it as a form of expression that’s inherently superficial and trivial. Like it or not, fashion and style are primarily a women’s art form. And I think it gets treated as trivial because women get treated as trivial.
- Fashion is a Feminist Issue: Greta Christina
I think this is SO true.